Robert, Thanks for reaching out. Have faith, be prayerful, immerse yourself in the scriptures and the word of God, and let the Holy Spirit be your guide. If you havent had any problems in that area in four years, Im sure the Lord has forgiven you and you need not let it bother you any more. Its for a friend, if he told his bishop that he was masturbating, he will going to tell that everything about what he did on masturbation? Then one day, she invited me to go to their house and play with their computer. And did it again, but moved wards because of a move with homes. If you broke the law of chastity before, and talked to your bishop. Stay strong. The scriptures tell us a person has repented if he confesses the sins and forsakes the sins. I know it will take a lot of courage to do all that you need to do, but you can do it. Often the things we carry are petty, even stupid. Behold, I give unto you a commandment, that ye suffer none of these things to enter into your heart; For it is better that ye should deny yourselves of these things, wherein ye will take up your cross, than that ye should be cast into hell. (3 Nephi 12:27-30 ). I broke the law of chastity about 2 years ago. Do these things and I know the Lord will bless and help you in miraculous ways. President Joseph Fielding Smith said of this: I have suffered pain, you have suffered pain, and sometimes it has been quite severe; but I cannot comprehend pain that would cause the blood, like sweat, to come out upon the body. What do you call of that? A few months ago my mom was talking to me about surving my mission and whether or not I want to go, that it was my decision. You may also ask your priesthood leaders what ideas they have, and that could include some kind of addiction support group. They get rid of it. I have heard that a serious violation of the law of chastity requires that you confess to your bishop in order to fully repent. Unfortunately, for some couples the bliss of deep love and immensely satisfying companionship does not last. I suggest being completely open and honest with your bishop. If we have sinned against another person, we should confess to the person we have injured. It sounds like you have learned that lesson and youll be a better women for it in the future. But if we are striving to repent, we can then use the sacrament to aid us in the repentance process. We must feel that our sins are terrible. Good luck and God bless. He will love and support you and help you through this difficult period in your life. I prayed each day and ask for forgiveness. Im a female and just recently turned 18. Im now at the point where i want to serve a mission. I dont know how I can train myself to think in LDS ways as I have been dealing with desensitization for some time now. He is asking us to change the way we love, think, serve, spend our time, treat our wives, teach our children, and even care for our bodies. I mean that my month to turn in my mission papers is January. I have a question. The Lord does not expect perfection from us at this point in our eternal progression. Hi jimmy, your answer to my question will be a definitely big relief.. when a returned missionary broke the law of chastity will he still be able to have a calling at church? It was also the first time I prayed in four years on my and for myself. Basically, does it matter which bishop it is. General ConferenceNo Ordinary Blessing, I Can Find Answers through General Conference, Strengthening Families by Increasing Spirituality, The Sealing Ordinance Links Families Eternally, Relief Society History: A Look at the Lords Vision for His Daughters, Preparation of All Kinds Blesses Saints in Joplin, Missouri, New Mission Presidents Blessed for Exercise of Faith, Seven Sisters Let Their Light Shine in the Mission Field at the Same Time, Repentance and Forgiveness in Marriage, Ensign, Sept. 2011, 1417, School of Family Life, Brigham Young University. Repentance makes it possible for us to grow and develop spiritually again. There can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was my joy (Alma 36:1214, 1721). Charlotte, The sacrament is a sacred ordinance and it should be partaken of worthily. Ultimately, your spiritual cleanliness and worthiness is between you and the Lord. I bless you to communicate the love of the Savior to your wife and children and to all who know you. I have also asked the Lord in prayer if this is something that I should tell my bishop and my parents about but ive never really felt the urge to do it. He needs men who are determined to keep themselves sexually pureworthy men who can be called upon at a moments notice to give blessings with pure hearts, clean minds, and willing hands. But with more serious sins, transgressors are often not given a calling for a time until some repentance steps have been completed. i really want to repent.. i already confessed this with our Heavenly Father.. i am ashamed and very embarrassed to talk about this to our bishop, i dont have the strength to confess. When I go to the MTC and confess, will they send me back home? I have been getting better and better at fighting and I have been talking with my bishop, but theres something that worries me more. Im losing my hope of marrying in the temple because of the sin I committed and what my teacher told us? May we be willing to take responsibility for our own sins and weaknesses that create stress and pain in our marriages. However, we can read some passages that show us that Adam and Eve could have repented of their sins. I appreciate the sensitivity in which you address your commenters. It stinks.but what I have learned is this, that for me and perhaps for you too, that an addiction like that will always come up from time to time, the temptations, the reminders, etc. I finally have come to my senses and I want to repent and never do this again. I know God lives and is mindful of you and loves you. It depends on what led to your ex-communication and your repentance. It is used over 600 times in the Old Testament and is translated by such words as "turn," "return," "seek," or "restore." If you are unsure about it, talk to your bishop. Isnt repentance between God (the Bishop as His representative) and the individual? If you have had continued violations of chastity over these years, then the repentance process will be longer and you may not be able to go on a mission. For serious sins, such as sexual intercourse outside of marriage or other serious violations of the law of chastity, I strongly encourage you to confess both to the Lord and to his representative in the Church, your bishop. He will love and help and support you through this process and through the grace of our Savior Jesus Christ I know you can be made clean and pure. I know Ive had a change of heart. It seems that raising the bar means one has to repent differently than normal. Elder Orson F. Whitney reminds us: Repentance is not that superficial sorrow felt by the wrongdoer when "caught in the act"a sorrow not for sin, but for sin's detection. It can be difficult to admit to oth Also is it even possible for me to go? The long answer is that there are some exceptions to that rule if you have committed very serious sins. But again, be prayerful and seek the guidance of the Lord. Be humble, be prayerful, and God will be with you and bless you. Seek to understand the atonement and to follow the example of Jesus Christ in all you do in life. Based off what you know, do you think I will be able to serve a mission by February or March of 2019? To become free from it, we must turn to our Heavenly Father, pray in faith, and act as He asks us to. Besides a sincere apology, repentance includes striving to forsake our shortcomings and weaknesses. It is powerful, spiritual medicine.3. I hope this helps. You can start by telling him the generalities of what happened, and he will ask for additional details as he considers them relevant. But whether or not you have committed serious transgressions, like serious violations of thelaw of chastity, we all make mistakes and need to utilize the repentance process. He got me thinking, and I have started to feel what I think is the spirit when I prayed for the first time in a while, or actually listen in seminary. What can we do so we can marry in the temple. You are of divine origin and that you are loved beyond your understanding. She must have been so relieved at the mercy shown to her. Any advice so I can have spirit with me and I never struggle with it again? For adultery, the Church tells local priesthood leaders that there is a mandatory one-year repentance process, though it could be two or three years depending on the seriousness of the sin and what the priesthood leaders feel is the right thing to do. As we repent and rely on His saving grace, we will be cleansed from sin. Through their tears they would ask, Bishop, how can I ever forgive my spouse? We would then talk about the Atonement and its ability to heal broken hearts and to give us the ability to forgive. I continued to have this struggle for a while until just a week ago I stopped because I really want to go on a mission. Good luck and God bless. But the thing is were still having hope of the Atonement for us to be able to marry in the temple. We get some insight into repentance by studying the law of sacrifice, given to Moses as a type to point forward to the coming Atonement of Christ. If your bishop is unclear or needs more information, he will ask for it. This will help you in ways you may not now realize. And let me assure you that you can still be married in the temple someday. I have been so against the church for the past couple years and really dont know how to go about this. This is a lie. You said you repented for braking the law of chastity a year and a half ago. I am a woman, currently 22 and is born in the covenant. I was just under the influence of marijuana and the person took advantage of my state. Please know that the worth of your soul is great in the sight of God (D&C 18:10). He has been called of God and will love and help and support you. For teachers: Writing a list can generate interest and help learners focus their attention. Jessica, To me, the best thing to do is the safe thing to do because I always think it is better to be safe than sorryand that would be to talk to your bishop about it. If we do not pray and are unkind to others, we are surely not repentant. I hope you have a wonderful mission. Or is it too late for me? You will be able to do that with constant prayer, scripture reading, and studying the words of the living prophets. However, since this was several years ago (I am now 18) and something that I feel forgiven for and have left completely in the past, do I still need to talk to my bishop? Then once i had turned 21 i indulged in porn and whiskey. I had wonderful people come into my office devastated because they had been terribly hurt by the actions of their spouse. The mission president wanted to keep my friend in the mission field, but he counseled with the mission department which ordered the missionary home. How long will the repentance process take? Because Satan is miserable without a body, he wants us to be miserable because of ours.13. After repenting and waiting the year can I serve when I turn 19? Then you can like Joseph Smith and Oliver Cowdery to whom the Lord said in D&C 110: 5 Behold, your sins are forgiven you; you are clean before me; therefore, lift up your heads and rejoice. Good luck and may God bless and be with you. Experience the strengthening power of daily repentanceof doing and being a little better each day. Please look to your bishop as a friend who is there to help you, which he really is. It seems, based on the situation as you explained it, that you probably did nothing wrong that warrants confession to your bishop. Arent individuals different? The mission department should have nothing to do with it. If it is on your mind and bothering you, then I would recommend talking to your bishop about it. Now, hes allowing me to go to the temple. If in prayer, you feel like you should tell your parents, then you better follow those spiritual promptings. For example, we keep our promises to do the dishes. The Church recommends that at least a year pass from the original church council. Good luck, and God bless you. Ive broken the law of chastity last week but want to serve a mission. First let the words of God sink deep into your heart and let them be reflected in all your actions. But if your sins were serious, such as sexual transgression, you will need to talk to your bishop about those before sending in your mission application. Repentance in a marriage is different. I kind of pushed it away from my mind. Do I have any chance of returning to the field? How do I learn to keep myself from masturbating as well as swearing like a drunken sailor that Gordon B. Hinckley cautioned? Others withdraw emotionally from the relationship. Is there mercy for me? This means that when we make a wrong choice, we can repent and feel peace and happiness again. And then, change! But if i do, am i also going to tell this to my parents? I hope this helps clarify some of your confusion. But through this journey I have come to know that as long as I can remember in my heart and hope to believe that I was a good girl once upon a time and that I over came Satan and his plan before (I have a body and he doesnt) well, I can over come him again and shouldnt let him torment me or make me feel worthless and like trash over anything, be it sexual impurities or just daily life. We stopped last summer and ended up going our separate ways. Should I go to support groups or should I learn how to discipline myself to prevent any more instances of masturbation. I have no excuse. Id love your advice on the matter, and your opinion on what is going to happen to me. A gossip who has slandered the character of a person should work to restore the good name of the person he has harmed. I want to be married in the temple someday, is it still possible? If it is something where I would need to wait a year, I would rather not ask or tell anyone I had the idea and I would stop considering it in the mean time. The prefix meta- means change. The suffix -noeo is related to Greek words that mean mind, knowledge, spirit, and breath.5. What you tell the bishop he will definitely keep confidential, though he may encourage you to talk to your parents about the situation if he thinks they should know and could help. Now, I ask you, brethren, are you more interested in dressing and grooming your body to appeal to the world than to please God? 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